Most of us don’t know even know how to tell the girl that we love and that loves us that you desire to see another man penetrate her. Fewer still know how to get the wife to not be repulsed by the thought and actually like the idea. Some of us have socialized it with her, and we even know that she likes the idea, but she’s reluctant to cross the barrier and actually do it.
So don’t worry, you’re not alone…I can’t guarantee that if you follow my advice that everything will work out like you want it to. A word of caution here…be careful what you ask for. This is some seriously intense emotional •••• that you are playing with. You need to be sure that you can handle it. But you need to know whether or not you can. It’s a hard thing to know empirically for sure until you actually see your girl getting her lights fucked out if front of you.
Maybe you are already sure that you know that you have to do this…that you have to have your woman bone another man’s dick in front of you. Maybe you just don’t know how to get from being captivated and obsessed with the idea to actually getting it done. You’re not alone there, dude. It’s not an easy thing, and I won’t pretend to say that if you do A, B, and C that you will get X, Y, and Z result. But there are some things that you can do to really enhance your chances.
I want to back up a little bit. I have to say…there are a lot of really great people on this site. I have had so many questions about how to get their wives to share, so instead of sending off a bunch of serial e-mails in response to the ones that I have gotten, I figured it would be easier just to do one post.
By the way, thanks to all for the e-mails…I got a few negative comments posted, but for the most part it’s pretty clear that there are a lot of you that my direct approach resonates with. So with that…here are a few things to go by when trying to do this.
Rule number one for getting your wife to fuck someone else:
As I said before, I have found that the direct approach is best. I hate liars, and I detest games. Number one approach to getting your wife to fuck someone else is remember to never get caught doing either one. Best way to not get caught? Simple. Don’t lie, and don’t play games.
It’s not only okay to tell your wife what you want, it’s critical. But you have to remember…it’s not all about what you want. It’s what your wife wants at least as much. Remember…no matter how bad you want your wife to fuck someone else while you are present (either watching or participating), if she doesn’t want it to happen, guess what? That’s right…it’s not going to happen. Period.
You have to use common sense with this. I’m not saying to be indiscriminant and indelicate with what you want. So gauge your approach, but remember…don’t lie, and don’t play games. Should you be subtle? Absolutely. Should you use tact? Hell yes. Don’t forget that you still love the woman you’re with, and we assume that she loves you.
Be gentle…remember, you love your woman, and she needs to know that. Be too blunt and you run the risk that you are going to kill the idea in her mind for good.
Rule Number Two:
You are playing with fire. If you fear that your ego and emotions are too fragile to handle this, it’s okay. Truly it is. You are not a coward if you don’t do it. There is nothing wrong with you for wanting your woman to fuck another guy, and there is equally nothing wrong with it if you couldn’t even fathom another guy touching your girl. So why would you think that there would be something wrong with being in the middle where you want it, but you don’t think that you could intellectually, emotionally process it and go through with it? Hear me on this…IT’S OKAY!!! If you only play with it, but never do anything with it…there is nothing wrong with it (or you). Congratulations, you are just like everyone else. Everyone has a fetish (at least one) that they keep to themselves, that they never actually indulge in outside of their innermost private thoughts.
Most people don’t actually go through with it and do this. An overwhelming majority of men are in the same boat that you are…incredibly drawn to the idea of seeing your wife cum all over some guy’s cock, but unsure if he can actually handle it.
Think about how you actually feel about this. I mean really think and think hard. And after you think everything through that there is to think about, think about it some more! Does that make sense? You need to know if you are one of the guys that not only thinks about your woman being fucked by someone else every time you fuck her, but you can’t not think about it. You need to know if you’re a guy that knows in his heart that it is an inevitability that your woman must fuck someone else and you absolutely do not want to live your entire life without seeing it. If you are…hear me on this as well. IT’S OKAY…there is nothing wrong with you, either.
You have no idea how normal that is. You are a normal human being that explores the boundaries of your sexuality. Go with it. Explore it. Be who you are. Don’t be afraid of who and what you (and your woman) are. You are sexual beings, and you have to come to grips with that. The only question now is which category you fall into. You are reading this, so I think it’s safe to assume that you are either a guy that it’s inevitable that your wife will fuck someone else while you watch it, or a guy whose wife will not fuck someone else (at least while he is present and / or participating). Sound logical?
The litmus test for knowing whether you can actually do the deed is if you understand how everything is going to go down. Remember, there are three people that are going to have some pretty strong emotions after your wife fucks another man….I know this sounds obvious, but you have to really think about this from the perspective of the players involved: you, your wife, and the guy you choose for your threesome. If sharing a woman is done right, everyone walks away with the following emotions:
The guy you involve for your threesome – He should be pretty happy…he just fucked your girl, with your permission, and you just shook his hand and thanked him for making your girl cum all over his dick. This guy needs to feel that, and nothing more or less (if it’s not good for him, why should he do it?). But the boundaries and expectations have to be set on the front end.
Something to consider here. If you choose a guy that you know to be the one to fuck your woman, there are a lot of things that can go bad. You may want to consider someone who you don’t know and they don’t know you, and the only way they can contact your girl is through you. See rule number one here…it’s okay to set ground rules with your woman on this. In fact, you have to. But don’t do it under false pretenses. Tell her that you’re too intrigued to see the woman that you love being pleasured by someone else to not do it, but that you would be at least a little insecure about the possibility of emotional attachment.
You can always extend the boundaries later if you feel comfortable, but if you start with no boundaries and things happen that you don’t feel comfortable with…it’s going to be at the least very difficult to close the boundaries and at the very worst impossible.
Err on the conservative side. Don’t be afraid to use training wheels. By the way…if the guy that you are engaged in doesn’t understand or respect the boundaries, don’t do it. Nothing good can come from that.
Her emotions – She should be pretty happy…she is going to love a strange fuck at least as much as you do, but she’s going to keep it close unless she trusts you enough to be honest. She might feel a little guilty about it depending on a whole lot of things like how she grew up, her family’s attitudes about sexuality, etc. Reaffirm her that you are the one that wanted this, and that it’s okay that she loved it.
Even if she does genuinely trust you, she may want to keep it close about how much she actually enjoyed it anyway. A little bit of advice here – let her. Hear me on this…it’s very important. Let her. Be a gentleman. She’s going to have a world of her own anyway…if she wants you in it, she’ll invite you. If you push your way into it, start counting the number of days before you’re out of there, dude.
One other thing…there’s a very high chance that she’s wanting to do it again, but she really doesn’t want to hurt you. You may not ever do it again, and as much as you want to, don’t try to force her. Again, let her sort this one out on her own and be a gentleman.
You – You won’t know what the fuck to feel if you’re honest. You will feel a spectrum of emotions, and you will not be able to stabilize all of them right away. And for God’s sake…be honest about that. What the fuck is up with guys that can’t be honest, anyway? Quit fronting, because everyone (her, the guy fucking your woman, everyone you let know your fetish, etc.) knows it.